In 2021 I dated someone who was physically abusive. We saw a therapist about it, and I left to seek refuge with family multiple times.
In November 2021, I planned to leave for good and her attacks crossed a line. For the first time I pushed her away and told her to stop.
A police report was filed and later the person corrected their statement and the case was dismissed without trial.
My ex even went on to defend me in an online forum:
Sadly an extreme anti-Microsoft blogger found the police report and used it to smear my name with false statements he published about me.
I have an ongoing defamation claim in UK High Court against this blogger for these false statements.
Separately, in 2025 this blogger lost a defamation case filed by another Microsoft researcher and was ordered to pay £70,000 in libel damages.
It is difficult to talk about being a victim of domestic violence. If you are feeling stuck, you are not alone. Please reach out to the domestic violence hotline at 800-799-7233 or be candid with a friend.