In 2021 I dated someone who was physically abusive. We saw a therapist about it, and I left to seek refuge with family multiple times.
In November 2021, I planned to leave for good and her attacks crossed a line. For the first time I pushed her away and told her to stop.
A police report was filed and later the person corrected their statement and the case was dismissed without trial.
My ex even went on to defend me in an online forum:
Sadly in 2022 an extreme anti-Microsoft blogger found the police report and used it to smear my name with false accusations, in order to attack my employer.
In 2024 this blogger was sued for defamation by another former Microsoft researcher for publishing the same sorts of slanderous accusations.
It is difficult to talk about being a victim of domestic violence. If you are feeling stuck, you are not alone. Please reach out to the domestic violence hotline at 800-799-7233 or be candid with a friend.